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You do not be afraid and be withdrawn from people. It is the first step to make you more open, and even you feel you would like to be together with people, and this is not the last step you have taken. When you really find you get the pleasure with people, you may really improve yourself to a good situation. How to have a pleasure time with people?

It is not so practical that the time to be together with others always so amazing, but make yourself comfortable is available in some sense. To achieve this you must adjust your thinking at that time the people around, and with the awareness of the necessity. And in order to avoid the bad feeling from arousing, you may have to roster your character. In advance you expect the good relationship and good together time too much may devalue the quality time. Happy time most of the time comes with a surprise. So it may be nicer to focus on the present time and make yourself fine than to expect the coming time in case to be in vain.

Thinking constantly much of the goodness and value of the other people, especially the people important to you, parents, sisters and brothers, friends, boss, colleagues, neighbors. Here there are some of the tips. Write down the goodness and values of them in one memo book and have a look now and then. You may find the people are too lovely. This is a good way. Another tip is to tell what you have written down to others at suitable time, to the kind person or other person or remind yourself of the kindness and value while the inner unfriendliness appearing. In these cases the good things would heavier and heavier and the bad things would lighter and lighter and make you a stable mind while together with people.

People are kind because of the good memory, and bad because of the good memory. Remember what should be remembered and forget what should be forgotten.

If the people supporting you are becoming more and more, your inner heart would feel safer and safer.

Keep good distance with different people. Take some minutes to figure out the distance making you comfortable. Some people make you appreciate them while they are a little far but create discomfort when too near to you. The interesting thing you may find that you are feeling to the same person in different time and in different distance is different. In order to create nice relationship, considering the distance may give some help to you. Cannot deny that sometimes the unfriendliness comes without any awareness. Before attributing it to the person, think of the distance between you the good one or not. The distance is defined as the depth of the communication. So make both of you in the suitable depth of the communication.

Some people have talent as an outgoing and welcomed person, some people have to learn and try hard to be such a person. Anyway, if the latter learn and have become the former, the same to them.